The last couple months of the year can be difficult for many people. As you navigate changes in the seasons, increased pressure at work or school, high expectations of family gatherings, perfect holiday décor, or a loss feeling even more prominent as you try to celebrate. Under the weight of this, how do you manage the holidays effectively? What can you do to slow down and maybe even enjoy part of this season?
Why is it Tough?
Seasonal Affective Disorder
Many people don't realize it, but during the winter months of the year our bodies change. With less sunlight our bodies absorb less vitamin D from a physical perspective. We also spend more of our waking hours in darkness, which has an impact on our mood.
High Expectations
With Holidays....comes a familial pressure. A pressure to be a part of all the activities, to bring food, to present your children in tidy outfits, and with good manners. It's hard to meet the expectations of everyone, and the holiday's can bring judgement, both perceived and intended.
Loss and Loneliness
Holiday's are supposed to be a time of joy, but what happens when you find yourself missing someone who was a part of your holiday traditions for years? Traditions can often bring back difficult memories of those who are gone, and it is normal to miss them.
Overstimulation
The lights on the tree, the smell of the candles, the sound of the toys, the feel of your sweater. Any of these alone could provide a sensory overload and increased anxiety.
Making it Through.
Reduce Social Media
The nature of social media is that everyone shows the best parts of their lives to the world. If you feel your holiday season is, even slightly, diminished, seeing others celebrating without any perceived issues can make you feel worse about your holiday.
Intentionally Celebrate
Try to focus on the reasons you are choosing to celebrate. Finding yourself in a stressful situation, and not being focused on the purpose of the celebration brings anxiety.
Traditions you Enjoy
Limiting the number of traditions you participate in, and select the two most important to you to reduce the quantity of activities and boost the quality.
Taking Breaks
Creating time to step out of a stressful gathering can make a huge difference and allow you to avoid bottling up a lot of anxiety at once.
Be Honest
Even using coping skills, taking breaks, and having intentional interactions might not be enough to overcome some stressors. It is important to be honest and explain that what you need. Any family or friend that truly cares about you will understand your needs and respect them.
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